That's the trick! Try it out the next time you have a hard time keeping a new strumming pattern while singing! I have used this trick many, many times, and it has helped me to get that "Patting your head, rubbing your belly" feeling to go away.
Let me put this in bold letters because you need to hear this. You are not a failure, the reason you haven't become famous is not because you're not doing enough. Before we start, I want you to find a mirror (or use your phone selfie feature) and ask yourself this question. No, well - [...]
Trying to get to the next level? You need someone to help you get there! Duh. What do Spotify playlists and open mic nights have in common? Gatekeepers and Key masters. Let's go find out where Zuul is.
If you notice a lack of professionalism in somebody and you keep using that person and getting frustrated, that is not on them that is on you.
The rhythm hand deserves some extra love! Stop telling yourself that someone will take care of the heavy lifting with guitar. Stop being the weak link in the band. Learn to play the damn guitar! It's nothing complicated, so don't feel overwhelmed. You just need to dedicate a little additional focus on specific techniques.
I have a vivid memory of singing when I was nine and having the person next to me ask me to stop singing because it was hurting his ears. It hurt my feelings as much as it hurt his ears. Young Crazy Legs would sing the way I sing now, with reckless abandon to anyone in earshot. I had no understanding of range or pitch.